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There was much discussion at dinner with some fiendz this evening on the subject of my shoes. It’s quite premature since I have to decide what I’m wearing first, but I have a strong feeling that I want to get married and celebrate in Dansko’s. They are so damn comfortable. (Does that make me a “woman in comfortable shoes?” I can live with that.)

My first thought: are there white Danskos? Happily, the answer is YES.

But I also think I might wear red shoes. Partially because I like red, I think it would look good, and I could wear them later. But also I like it for the allusion to ruby slippers.

So Melissa likes these, (at left) but I’m also attracted to these and these (kinda). Do we see a pattern emerging? Yes: my toes will definitely be making an appearance at the ceremony.

Welcome to the first (that we know of) open source wedding!

Although we find many aspects of the traditional patriarchal idea of marriage objectionable, we hope to help redefine the institution by showing there’s another way to be “husband and wife.” One of the reasons to get married, and not just live in a committed domestic partnership, is that declaring our union in such a public way signifies the importance of the community in our relationship.

Or to put it another way: if it was just about us, we’d elope. This wedding is for us, but also for you – our friends and families. We hope you enjoy it emotionally, mentally, and physically. We expect The Main Event to take place in the summer of 2006.

We hope this website will be a tool for collaboration between each other, but also between all of you participants in our partnership with the community. Plus, we really need your help! Got a suggestion for a caterer? Know of some helpful websites? Want to help us organize the best party of our lives? You can contribute your ideas in many ways here.

As the planning gets into high gear, we will be using the site to share the latest information and wedding plans and will also be adding more ways for you to participate online.

Some of the things you can do on this website right now:

• Read and comment on our blog entries.
• Write your own blog. It doesn’t have to be about us!
• Create or contribute to a collaborative document (or “book”).
• Start a poll.
• Schedule an event.

Yesh! Ruby and I are engaged. Now starts the planning of the wedding! Whoa…

OMG, we’re getting married!